Men's Divorce Health

Wait... what are you doing Mike?

You read it right. I am devoting a large part of my medical practice to a new field which I am calling "Men's Divorce Health". 

Ok Mike... what does that mean? 

I bring on men who are going through the major life transition of divorce. I set up an intensive doctor-patient relationship with them that lasts anywhere from 6 to 18 months. By the end of our time together the client achieves their clearly defined health goals and is on a self-driven trajectory to longterm better health.

But why Mike... why?

I know from personal experience that getting divorced can be an incredibly destabilizing. When I was (and I still am at the time of writing this) going through my divorce I would have loved to have had a competent medical professional I could have gone to. Someone that would have given me sage evidence informed advice on how to get my shit together, to start new habits and intentionally build a new healthier life. Someone to check in on me, give me structure, warn me about the life hurtles that lay ahead, someone to help me see beyond the short sighted and bleak future I felt was laid before me. I was looking for a divorce mentor that was armed with deep medical knowledge and who really gave a damn about me. I wasn't able to find anyone like this. So I decided to create it. For me it is my way of making meaning and growth out of the suffering I endured. 

So what does this look like?

I don't promise panaceas or complete escape from suffering. Instead I focus on very defined metric driven goals and I get tangible results. We (that means you and I) spend time getting to actually know each other and formulate a health strategy unique to you, your goals, and your circumstances. We find the biggest gains for the least cost and navigate safety, financial costs, and time burdens to find what is actually workable and effective. Getting you healthier manifests as you being a better parent to your kids, a better co-worker in your career, a better member of your family and friends groups, and ultimately better friend to yourself. It is an iterative process and the best barometer for how it's working is how you feel towards yourself.

Are most people ready for this change?

Clearly the last chapter of your life was not all cupcakes and roses. Undoubtedly there is suffering from the dream of a life you had 'all planed out', when that dream is now laying in tatters and on fire all around you. Endless thoughts may bombard your mind: "How are my friends and co-workers going to view me now?", "Am I a damaged good?", "What the fuck defines me now?", "What is the new relationship with my kids going to look like?", "Am I an unlovable failure?", "How am I going to support myself and afford this damn thing?" Your identity, relationships, and life are forever fundamentally changed.

As I said before, getting divorced is an incredibly destabilizing event. Oddly enough, it makes it the perfect time to start implementing better life decisions and a new authentic identity. Your life will never be as malleable as it is now. Consider all of your old patterns gone. You are now given the blank canvas of a new future, and you get to (and have to) make the first brush strokes.

Divorce is an opportunity to take your crumbled life and reform it into something better. You are human (if you're not human please don't book an appointment), so you will inevitably fall into new routines that will redefine your life. The routines you enact will set the course for where you will be decades from now. Those routines can form under inattention and absentmindedness, forged in the fire of poor coping strategies, OR those routines can be deliberate and cultivated with intention to get you on a path that you actually want to be on. What you decide to do right now, in this moment, matters. Your decision (passive or active) will have an outsized effect on your future, more than at any other instant in your life. I would like to be there to help you in that process. Together, we can drastically improve the quality and trajectory of your life decades from now. 

Let's begin and work together, taking a proactive approach and making your next chapter what you want it to be.